24 posts tagged “qotd”
How are you celebrating the 4th of July?
hmmmm... we are in the midst of that. Ben made a video of his new bike and put it on youtube. We cleaned the car. We made yummy drinks with ice, limeade and RUM. mmm I am still feeling it. We are cooking brats and made a batch of gazpacho. Dinner was yummy. We played with sparklers - more later once it's dark. Home....
How have you changed in the past year?
Submitted by littleduckling.
When Ben's mom was out here we talked a lot about how Ben has changed. This made sense to me -she being his mother she would notice these things. It was a comfort to me to have her see it too. There is a calmness in our home now, a happy "things are great!" kind of feeling. When he is in a good place, "I" am in a good place too.
Ben's mom was also talking to him about how "I" have changed. Again, she would see it. It seems I am less stressed and less likely to be upset. I have become much more balanced and have stopped looking for what's wrong and loving the stuffing out of what's right.
You could say I changed because he changed. Or that he changed because I changed. But both would be right. We both have changed in this past year. We both stopped seeing life from only our own eyes and started looking for the reflection of life through the other's. I learned how he thinks, feels and how I was affecting that - and he did the same. We accepted our differences and embraced our similarities.
13 years we've known each other - married almost 9
And NOW is the closest we've ever been.
I read A LOT. I taught myself at 3 and proceeded to work my way through the children's library in Ellinwood Kansas. I rode my bike CONSTANTLY and dreamed of trapezes and unicycles. The closest I got to circus skills was when I would go to the park and PRETEND I was in the circus. I would walk across the top bars of swing sets and pretend it was a tight rope. I would take any swinging bar and pretend it was a trapeze. And I spent hour after hour doing back bends and walk overs.
Vox, vox...5 break up songs? Sheesh. A song that signifies a break up to one person could just as easily mean love an devotion to another! And 5? I've had many relationships but I did not put each one to music. I guess it would all depend on whether you are the breaker or the broken, eh? Ok, here you go vox, a few songs I've cried too.
First - the TOONS - This album came out in 1982. I designed the cover and art directed the photo shoot. My (then) husband was their recording engineer and I was - their friend. A bit more perhaps to one of them. It left me feeling sad a lot of the time, but I would not change a thing about my past. The Toons were a part of it and I loved them and their music.
The song "where are you tonight"- was written my by friend and one night at his house he was playing and singing it and I sang along. From then on I would be invited up on stage when the Toons were performing to sing harmony to this song. I adored this song. Then something happened that made it impossible to sing with them. I was in the audience, and ignored. It broke my heart. Not that I was no longer singing this song, but that I had been "broken up with" and yet - was there ever anything to break up from? Not in my mind. These were my friends. I still consider them my friends. I loved that time in my life and I always will.
Looked just like THIS without the "53."
White, 1960 VW bug I put TAPE on to match HERBIE the love bug.
Stick shift, crank windows, flat windshield... it was my baby - until I went to college, then my sister got it. And she rolled it on the way to a beer party in the sticks. Her friends just rolled it back on it's wheels again.
What are you most looking forward to this weekend?
IRON MAN! - Ben got us tickets for tomorrow afternoon
SPRING CLEANING- cleaning out of all things unused around here and organizing the things we do.
ART - I set up my art studio and I have a couple projects I'm working on
MUSIC - I hung my guitars on the wall - now I can see them, I hope to play them more.
READING - I have about 5 books I am either in the middle of or want to start!
MOVIES - I have a pile we've bought over the past few months I have not watched yet - plus 2 seasons of "house"
GAMES - Ben is on a game fest and we have many games to play!
SCOOTERING - now that we have the keys to both, we need to ride!
HIKING - more more!
HOUSECLEANERS - they clean this weekend, YEAH!
PLANTING FLOWERS - color for my gardens
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I just realized there is NO WAY I'll be doing all of the above!
:-) can you tell? I am NEVER bored.
If you are in a committed, romantic relationship - and you or your partner finds themselves drawn to pay more attention to someone outside that relationship - it's cheating.
Does not matter what the reason or the outcome or the level of involvement.
Does not matter if it is sexual, emotional, or ego driven.
Does not matter if the partner was truthful or lying.
Does not matter if it happened once or over a period of months.
If the actions of one partner with someone else causes (or would cause) emotional pain to the other - it's cheating.
If you've cheated - you owe your partner the truth. By your actions you've set your partner up for a world-o-hurt. There is no justification for it. No one deserves to be cheated on. You made a choice and you must live with the consequences. If it's best to keep what you did a secret, then do so - but never blame your partner.
If you've been cheated on - you deserve the truth. And if your partner is able to open up to you - it is an opportunity to move past the pain. Let the past be a lesson you learn together. Find your way back to the place where you were devoted to each other. If it brings you closer together, allow yourself to have faith in what you feel. And if the right path is to move apart, do not place blame.
If you are the person "outside" the relationship ...
Does not matter who started it.
Does not matter what the reason or the outcome or the level of involvement.
Does not matter if it is sexual, emotional, or ego driven.
Does not matter if the person was truthful or lying.
Does not matter if it happened once or over a period of months or over and over again
It's cheating.
And by your involvement - you set yourself up for your own world-o-hurt, confusion, and what-ifs. When the cheating relationship ends, and the other person recommits to their partner, you are the one the door closes on. You are outside their relationship. You cannot stay on as a "friend." You cannot turn to the person for understanding. Your side of the event is your's alone. See the event as a lesson - as a chapter in your own personal story. Let go - really let go. When you do, you'll be able to move forward with an open heart to your own endless world of possibilities.
I've been the "outsider," the "cheater" and one "cheated on."
I forgive and I've been forgiven. May you all be granted the same.
If you're getting one, how are you planning on spending your tax refund?
We always apply our "over payments" to our next year's estimated tax. (Oh the joys of the self employed) We are however getting the "economic incentive" check, and while we "should" use it to pay down some of our equity line of credit - I'm betting we replace the tv in our bedroom. We love to snuggle and watch tv at the end of the day and the tv we have now, while good sized and HD - has bizarre green thick lines running down it! I pretend they are not there - or that they are meant to be there. But it's getting harder and harder to ignore them!
I adore where I live.
Cas showed up yesterday and she and I did her taxes - went to LOBSTER SHACK (I am offficially addicted to their naked lobster roll) and then drove up to San Mateo where we had marvelous seats for Broadway by the Bay's production of LITTLE SHOP OF HORRORS. Cas and I adore this musical and were SO impressed with this production of it! There were contemporary elements added though out the show. She is planning on coming back to see their production of MILLIE in July.
This morning, Cas headed back to college - with Aaron in tow. She is showing him all around the Davis campus today, they are hanging out at her pool this afternoon (its hot here, so it must be an oven there). Aaron accepted at UCDavis. he'll be there studying Molecular Biology in the fall. Cas is so thrilled her brother will be there!
With the kids gone - Ben and I slept in late. We walked to get large coffees and drank them in our swinging chairs on the front porch. Such a lovely warm day, we drove up to Stanford University and walked through the park areas and around fountains and through lovely cool arched stone halls. We lunched at the Stanford Mall outdoors at Max's Opera Cafe. Back home... settled in on my back patio in the shade next to a fountain and read a bit of SPOOK. ( I love this book) As the light changed and I got sleepy - I moved to the hammock in the front courtyard. Hummingbirds drank from the big fountain and Ben's office music drifted through this open window. I snoozed off and on, cooled by gentle breezes.
Back inside ready to go into a raid with Ben on WOW. It's been such a nice 2 days.
Could also be the huge dumpster on the driveway that Aaron and Gavin filled for me yesterday.
We had a pile of building materials from the last big project I thought would NEVER go away. Ah... gone.
Tomorrow I'll finish our taxes and spend a bit more time with SPOOK. I might get my bedding plants in - or not. I'm keeping it chill. :-)
What indulgence always makes your grocery list?
