2 posts tagged “love”
If you are in a committed, romantic relationship - and you or your partner finds themselves drawn to pay more attention to someone outside that relationship - it's cheating.
Does not matter what the reason or the outcome or the level of involvement.
Does not matter if it is sexual, emotional, or ego driven.
Does not matter if the partner was truthful or lying.
Does not matter if it happened once or over a period of months.
If the actions of one partner with someone else causes (or would cause) emotional pain to the other - it's cheating.
If you've cheated - you owe your partner the truth. By your actions you've set your partner up for a world-o-hurt. There is no justification for it. No one deserves to be cheated on. You made a choice and you must live with the consequences. If it's best to keep what you did a secret, then do so - but never blame your partner.
If you've been cheated on - you deserve the truth. And if your partner is able to open up to you - it is an opportunity to move past the pain. Let the past be a lesson you learn together. Find your way back to the place where you were devoted to each other. If it brings you closer together, allow yourself to have faith in what you feel. And if the right path is to move apart, do not place blame.
If you are the person "outside" the relationship ...
Does not matter who started it.
Does not matter what the reason or the outcome or the level of involvement.
Does not matter if it is sexual, emotional, or ego driven.
Does not matter if the person was truthful or lying.
Does not matter if it happened once or over a period of months or over and over again
It's cheating.
And by your involvement - you set yourself up for your own world-o-hurt, confusion, and what-ifs. When the cheating relationship ends, and the other person recommits to their partner, you are the one the door closes on. You are outside their relationship. You cannot stay on as a "friend." You cannot turn to the person for understanding. Your side of the event is your's alone. See the event as a lesson - as a chapter in your own personal story. Let go - really let go. When you do, you'll be able to move forward with an open heart to your own endless world of possibilities.
I've been the "outsider," the "cheater" and one "cheated on."
I forgive and I've been forgiven. May you all be granted the same.
Today Ben sat under Todd's needles for about 4 hours. Today he got the black outline and shading for the chest piece he's been planning for so long. It's like MINE! Only his has a realistic heart, and will be in color eventually and he has fire coming up under his chin - and where the neckline is - he has a ribbon. His swallows are holding the ribbon. And in the ribbon is Deborah.
